Well, of course you shouldn't be interested in dating someone you are incompatable with, no matter what their race. There are lots of white women I have nothing in common with and with whom I would never date (if I were single).

The bottom line is that all bigotry is stupid. Saying to yourself "You know, that person may be the person with whom I would like to spend the rest of my life if he/she were just the right color" is damned stupid.

I want all the best people around me. If I have to have an operation, I don't give a rat's arse whether the doctor is male, female, black, white, gay, straight, religious, atheist, democrat, or republican, because those things have aboslutely nothing to do with whether that person is a good doctor or not. Bigotry is stupid because you are limiting your choices. People should be judged on what they can do, and not things that are not in their control (such as their race, sex, or sexual orientation).

And yes, when I was in college, I dated a black girl for about 6 months. It fell apart but not because of race (although especially in the late 70s in Virginia, that seemed to be an issue with other people but not us).

I believe there is a quote that goes something to the affect of:

'In the end you'll find that you are just like me, a small boat on a raging sea.'

That quote has such broad connotations.

Never close yourself off to the possibilities! They are boundless!

So true mate, so true! lol

Perish the thought! :wink:

Yes...it is possible for some, as are most scenarios as such! I have seen it happen..not your exact scenario but very similiar..and several times too!

Interestingly enough I have never dated within my race, all of my realtionships have been interracial.

The problems have come more form my family, in particular my sister, not liking that I date Causcasion men, they me having any trouble with the guys famiily. Though I did have an incident when some relatives of my boyfriend refused to even shake my hand.

I'm going to catch some heat for this one, but I sort of knew you didn't date black men.

Can't say how exactly or why, but that's been my virtual impression of you since day one.

Not that there's anything wrong with that! :wink:

That's interesting, my family has always felt the way as well, that I wouldn't end up dating black men.

Honestly its not intentional or by design.

I am a math/computer geek and I have pretty much dated nothing but computer geeks, and the ratio of black men in comp sci and math departents in the colleges I have attended is really low. As an undergrad I didn't see a single black man in the comp sci department till I was a senior andoen black male in the math department, and in my first grad school program in math there were none. In my current grad program in comp sci there is one black man.

I have yet to leave the school environment and the last itme there were a significant number or even any black men around me, was elementary school.

I've dated many variations of caucasuion men and Asian guys, but unless you count grade school boyfriends (all of mine were black, i grew up in a predominantly blackneighborhood), no black men.

If Taye Diggs wants to volunteer to change my streak, I am more then willing :wink:

That's interesting because I'm almost vice versa. I think only two of my past six boyfriends have been caucasian. Thnaks for answering so honestly and bringing up your thoughts as to situational vs. intentional social spaces. I think its one the most insightful posts in this thread, and I agree with you on many levels, though using different examples of course since I can't use computers without calling tech support every ten minutes.

-Dolce

Thanks for understanding. I didnt want to come off as condescending.

I had quite a few friends of various nonwhite ethnic backgrounds in film school who, because of the lack of availability, ended up dating white people. I don't have an issue with it (heck, I'm a byproduct of interracial lust).

I only have an issue (if you can call it that) when people seemingly seek out specific races and seem to go overboard, ie white chicks with braids and gold teeth, dating only black thugs. It just doesn't seem right.

That said, it is kinky. And makes for good porn.

Thanks for understanding. I didnt want to come off as condescending.

I had quite a few friends of various nonwhite ethnic backgrounds in film school who, because of the lack of availability, ended up dating white people. I don't have an issue with it (heck, I'm a byproduct of interracial lust).

I only have an issue (if you can call it that) when people seemingly seek out specific races and seem to go overboard, ie white chicks with braids and gold teeth, dating only black thugs. It just doesn't seem right.

That said, it is kinky. And makes for good porn.

I also think at this point it is unlikely that I will ever end up dating within my race.

loyalfromlondon is not that first person to peg me as someoe who "doesn't date black men." I think at this point black men don't even think to approach me, when I am with guys they are Caucasion, becuase I am always hanging out wih other math and computer geeks from school and they are almost exclusively white.

In the 7th grade I got placed in the honors clases as the only black person, and sicne then my friend group has changed form ebing predominantly black to be predominantly white. So I don't have many black friends, and I don't meet many black men. So the pool of men that I pull dates from is all white.

Even though I never decided not to date black men, it worked out that way. I livbe in a predominantly white neighborhood, I work in two departments that are predominantly white, when I enter the job market my collagues will be predominantly white, and my friends are predominantly white.

On another level, being smart even as ayoung child I always accused of "talking white." I use to many big words, I happen to enjoy both rock and rap music. I have almost since birth been considered "not black enough."

Dating is interesting, because on the one hand I am not black enough for black people and on the other hand I know a ton of white men who "don't find black women attractive" so I am to black.

I never cared what racial or ehtnic groiup the guys I dated were in, nor will I care in the future. But from my situation I consider my future dating pattern to mirror what has happened in the past.

I didn;t take an offense at all, in fact I smiled at both this post and the last one.

That porn comment is gold, I just might place it in my signature.

I wasn't surprised you thought that way, I seem to give off that vibe to people. I wish I know what made people think that about me, but no one ever seems to be able to explain why they peg me that way.

Anyway, the fact that I give off this vibe coupled with the the situational aspects makes it very unlikely that I will ever date a black man, why ask out a girl you think isn't attracted to anyoen of your race.

I always get annoyed with comments like "I olyl date black men" or "Asian women aren't attractive." Both are such limitng and narrow views, it makes no sense whatsoever.

I to am a byproduct of that biracial loving, my mom's famiy is from Portugal and my dad's family is a mix, his mother was Native American and his father was from Cape Verde.

It's sad that someone can be articulate and have diverse interests and be labeled as not being true to their race. Enviroment plays a huge factor on who you relate to, it's just not something people usually just wake up and decide to do.

Oh, and Asian women are hot. It's a proven fact. I saw it on The Discovery Channel.

For more information on how hot Asian women actually are, rent Payback or email Mirûvor.

It is sad, and its what Bill Cosby was speaking out against, and of course he got attacked for saying it. It true though, because I enjoy speaking english, reading books, and can appreciate music that celebrates more then black women hving large asses I'm not black enough. Whatever, I'll happily not be black enough, because being black shouldn't mean uneducated, which is unfortunately the message that is sent in poor black communtiies. In part because poor black communities are by and large cut off from the more middle class and affleunt black communities. They exist as two separate groups who look to separate leaders, and distrust each other.

Since I left my old neighborhood and got a college degree, I think I am better then everyone else. It is all such BS.

Anyone who thinks Asian women aren;t hot obviously hasn't seen Maggie Cheung, I sell my soul and my first born child for one night with her.

He could if in the end, its the type of woman he wants. Its different that most white suburban males wouldnt opt for that kind of woman ... which is basically my point ..

By your own statement, You are not rejecting the woman for being ethiopian .. because if that was so, you would have not continued pointing other stuff out. You are rejecting her because she hasnt had an education (which YOU value) and she harvests peas (indicating a clash in lifestyles).

But in the end, there is a good chance that most ethiopian women are like that (hypothetically speaking ofcourse : ) ... which is why I would understand why people find it easier to look within their own 'kind', whether its the color, race, religion, or where you grew up cause all are a factor in how the person turns out like.

Hot is what you like in the end. Different types of women turn me on in different ways ..... I can totally understand why someone doesn't physically like a 'type' of woman

AH YEAH.

Now, if Asian women could only get slightly bigger asses, I'll be completely sold.

Speaking of asses, Ripper you know your white boyfriends like that Portuguese ass.

So exotic.

faça-o gostar do meu corpo

That's exactly what I am talking about, gorgeous (those legs, the face, her eyes...) and she is an amazing actress to boot.

Haha, I take you're an ass man then?A nice ass a way more important then a nice breaasts in my opinion...

Haha, yes, you ses its my Portuguese ass that lans me those hot pasty white Irish/French boys I am so fond of :wink:

Perfernece is one thing, but to completely negate any entire race as unattractive is bloody insane. It one thing to say I prefer Asian women, or I prefer Cuasaion women, I prefer Indian or I am not attracted to most Asian women or Most balck women do nothing for me. But the flip side of Asian women are not hot or Indian women are not hot is just dumb, in the grand histor of the planet therse peopel are seriosuly going to say no Aisan woman, no African American woman, no Indian women is attractive to them.

I'm sorry but then there penis is not working.

I don't like blondes all that much, but when I see ahot blonde women I still think "damn she's hot." I might prefer to talk to her hot brunette friend, but that doesn't make the blonde any less attractive, I just prefer raven haired beauties :wink:

not true.
I can name you many people i know who wouldnt find that picture loyal posted as hot at all. Some people just don't like a certain look, its no disrespect to anyone, its just a preference. I know quite a few people who do not find an oriental look nice .... I also know a lot of people who just do not prefer a south indian look (men and women alike, like me .. I have a south indian look) ....

not true.
I can name you many people i know who wouldnt find that picture loyal posted as hot at all. Some people just don't like a certain look, its no disrespect to anyone, its just a preference. I know quite a few people who do not find an oriental look nice .... I also know a lot of people who just do not prefer a south indian look (men and women alike, like me .. I have a south indian look) ....

Oriental refers to furniture, rugs, and vases.

This is Asian

sorry
to me asian is anyone who is from the Orient, South Asia, Middle east and any other asian place I've left out. Last i checked, we all belong to them ..

As I said it is one thing to state a perference but a statement like "all women of a certain ethnic group are unattractive" isn't a preference, its being a bigot. By that claim, that person is saying never will a women form that ethnic group ever be attractive. Aabsolute statements are raely true, if one were to say I am in general not attracted to thisi certian ethnicity, fine, it still leaves open that option that the might find some subset of women in that ethnicity attractive.

Asia is a vast land when many different types of women, to say something like I don't like Asian women is in my opinion narrow minded.

And in general I find I don't get along well with people who think that way.

sorry but i dont think theres anyone out there who actually says, all women of a certain ethnic group are unattractive, most of them do nothing more than generalize their "preference or lack of" for a certain ethnicity.

I do not think anyone out there passes absolute statements like that ... most people speak in general terms ......

I mean, I personally havent come across any person i wouldnt find physically attractive ... but i could very well be guilty of saying something to the effect of "I do not wish to go out with women who I cannot communicate with properly" ..... the statement may sound absolute but at the end of the day, its nothing more than a generalization of my experience or my thinking of how that relationship turns out ...